10 things that I wish I knew when I was 20
The last decade has been an interesting one.
Full of ups and downs. New jobs, and broken hearts. New places, and old spaces.
I went from living at home, to a home owner. To a landlord and apartment renter, to an adult under my parents roof, and back to an apartment renter.
I fell in love, then fell out of love. Then repeated the process a few years later.
I’ve left the country alone for the first time, and travelled across the world with my brother in toe.
It’s been a ride. And if I had to do it again, I wouldnt change a thing.
But there are a few things I know now, that I wish I knew at 20.
Not Everything Worth Having is Easy
Don’t get me wrong, some things will come easy.
But others, you will have to work hard for. So don’t make excuses, and find a way to get what you want. Nothing is impossible, unless you let it be.
It’s Okay to Choose You
When you realize something isn’t good for you. Say no. Not everything out there is meant for you. Wether it’s saying no to the popular boys advances, or saying no to the concert you don’t want to go to.
Stand up for yourself, because no one else will.
Eat Clean and Sweat Daily
Turns out, you don’t get any redos on this one. If you mess up the first time, it’s almost impossible to recover. So take care of your body, eat more fruits and vegetables. Avoid sugar 80% of the time. Exercise a few times a week. This body is all you have.
Moving Back Home isn’t a Failure
Life has no rules. Everything is made up. You don’t have to move out of your parent’s house at a certain age. You don’t have to get married at 26. Have kids at 27. You don’t even have to have to have a traditional job.You can start that blog. You can move back into your parents to save money.
You don’t have to have anything figured out, ever.
Let Other People In.
Wether it’s a new relationship, or a new friend. Let people see who you really are. You don’t need to make hundreds of friend, only a few. Life is about meaningful connections, and these few may just change your life.
A Career isn’t The End Game
Turns out, you’re good at a lot of things that you can do outside of the corporate world. You don’t need a 9 to 5, or to even report to a building. You can work for yourself. And you can make a living doing it.
This partly ties in with number one. Sometimes it takes time to achieve/get what you want, but remember its not just about the end, it’s also about the journey. So be patient, and enjoy the moments in between successes.
You may think this a ridiculous suggestion, but it will be the solution to a lot of your problems. Balance, control, confidence, reduced stress, lengthened attention a stillness. These are all benefits of mediating.
The sooner you start saving for retirement, the sooner you can retire. So learn about the stock market (it’s not as daunting as you think), start building your assets, and save, save, save.
Don’t Let Others Dictate Your Life
Your self esteem should never be in someone elses hands. So take my advice in number two seriously. Go out and do what you want to do, not what society, your family or friends want you to do.
And with that, I want to end this with a question for you.
If you could give your younger self advice, what would it be?